You Don't Even Know Who I am.

"Welcome to Uglytopia—the world reimagined as a place where it’s the content of a woman’s character, not her pushup bra, that puts her on the cover of Maxim. While we wish things were different, we’d best accept the ugly reality: No man will turn his head to ogle a woman because she looks like the type to buy a turkey sandwich for a homeless man or read to the blind."

Hey guys, who wants to read a Psychology Today article about how feminism is evil and has taught women that being conventionally beautiful and feminine maybe ISN’T the be-all end-all of life? And about how women need to be hot to keep their man’s attention but men don’t even have to try because, well, women don’t feel real sexual desire to things like bodies and faces, they’re just lil’ magpies attracted to shiny things like credit cards and private jets? And all this is written by a woman?

Well, good news. I found your daily dose of facepalm.

(via lizdexia)

huh…  I really don’t get this world.

I have to concede that, like knowledge, beauty is power.

And quite honestly, I don’t know that I find that particularly insulting or depressing.  I can’t blame a girl born with genes that make her rail thin, 5’10” with pouty lips and perky breasts for using those attributes any more than I can blame myself for choosing to read more than I use the treadmill. I know who I am, and she knows who she is, and the fact that either one of us could end up hitting a “jack pot” simply because of the way we are built isn’t something that keeps me up at night (Definitely not as much as it did when I was the same “undesirable” I was at 15)  But what really bothers me about this article is the insinuation that being worth while at all depends on “snagging that man” 

I can’t speak from experience, as I think it’s pretty obvious that I sit in a my safe little ivory tower of a long term same sex relationship, and I truly don’t comprehend why ANYONE should define their success-  or rather, their entire self definition, by the person they share a bed with.

I think it’s sad that women are expected to hold themselves up to higher beauty standards than men in order to be considered for dating… but what I find even more offensive is the idea that being in a relationship is SO important to the definition of female success that with out being coupled off, you basically don’t exist at all.

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When we consider the myriad school shootings that have occurred between 1992 and 2002 (there have been twenty-eight cases), several constants stand out. All twenty-eight cases were committed by boys. All but one was committed by a white boy in a suburban or rural school. We speak of teen violence, youth violence, violence in the schools. but no one in the media ever seems to call it suburban white boy violence, although that is exactly what it is. Try a little thought experiment: Imagine that all the killers in the more famous shootings in the 1990s - Littleton, Colorado; Pearl, Mississippi; Paducah, Kentucky; Springfield, Oregon; and Jonesboro, Arkansas, were black girls from poor families who lived instead in New Haven, Boston, Chicago, Newark. Wouldn’t we now be having a national debate about inner-city black girls? Would not the media focus entirely on race, class, and gender?

Of course it would: We’d hear about the culture of poverty; about how life in the city breeds crime and violence; about some putative natural tendency among blacks towards violence. Someone would probably even blame feminism for causing girls to become violent in vain imitation of boys. Yet the obvious fact that these school killers were all middle-class white boys seems to have escaped the media’s notice, in part because race, class, and gender are only visible when speaking of those who are not privileged by race, class and gender but invisible when speaking of those who are privileged by them.

Michael Kimmel: Men, Masculinity, and the Rape Culture (via mollay)

(Source: bhr.off-the-chain.org, via timemachineyeah)